Ever wonder why men crave sex? Of course. We’re told some pretty simple stuff about why men crave sex. Like it’s hormones. Or, because God wants humans to reproduce. Okay. But why then are we losing generation after generation of teenage boys to brokenhearted, misguided sexual relationships? And that’s among Christians.
One of the best answers I’ve seen, came from Chris Legg, co-author of Sex and Marriage. (His son, Mark Legg, is his co-author. You gotta admit, writing a book about sex together took some gumption for both of them!)
Deep in the Heart Founder Dr. Grace English, host of Get Real to Heal interviewed Chris on this topic of why men crave sex last week. Leave it to Grace to ask tough questions we all want to know the answer to.
If you are married or raising boys, this is for YOU! Because I get how hard it is.
Surprisingly, you won’t find this info anywhere else. Believe me I searched. I lost count of how many books I read researching my book, Marriage Conversations.
Spreading the Real Reason Men Crave Sex
In their conversation, Chris explains why men crave sex. You are going to love what he says.
Chris’s book, Sex and Marriage, is one of my all time favorites. I’ve lost track of how many times I’ve given it away to friends.
Because a lot of hubbies don’t read marriage books, I really want you to have their podcast. So today, I’m embedding their podcast for you.
Trusting God with marriage is hard. We need all the help we can get.
Super-duper Sex
Then, right before their podcast aired, I got a text from Grace. They mentioned my marriage book in their conversation together on Get Real to Heal. Yep. That’s a high point for me. Two of my favorite people. So naturally I listened in.
Chris retold one of my stories.
I’m embedding that story today, too. A special shout out to my friends at Christian Communicators who recorded this story long before my book came out. Thank you!
Dave and I think it’s hilarious. We hope you enjoyed it, too.
Behind the Scenes: Insider Info for Book Writing
By the way, at the end of their podcast, Chris mentions a very talented writer and his co-author, Mark Legg. Is it bragging when dad is just telling the truth about a talented son? Anyway, I say, “Amen!”
I got to see Sex and Marriage before Mark got involved. That’s how I knew Mark’s skill level is off the chart.
Chris’s initial content was life-changing, marriage-changing, no doubt. But Chris’ writing reflects how fast his brain works. Would you believe me if I told you the man can think and write even faster than he can talk?
Fortunately, Mark’s genius is in bringing clarity and all his scholarly training to bear on refining a book. Wow!
On a side note, Anna and I are pretty delighted to have Mark’s help on our next book. It’s for moms and grandmothers who want use crafts and conversation to bring out the good character in their beautiful kiddos.
Is it selfish of me to think if I brag on Mark too much, he might get too busy for me? Okay, that’s rhetorical. I know the answer.
Anyway, if you need help with a book, you can find Mark here. Plus, my dear friend and editor, Deb Butterfield is taking on clients. I bet there’s a line forming for her services, too. So, if you are writing a manuscript, contact them now to get on their schedules.
Fellowship is the Best Foreplay: Chosen
In Marriage Conversations, I also write a chapter I originally called, “Fellowship is the Best Foreplay.” We went with a different title, “Chosen.” But, well, I’ll have to write another book, just to use that title!
But seriously, fellowship is not just a church party without alcohol. True fellowship is grounded in a commitment to keep loving each with unfailing love. In marriage, fellowship is foundational to oneness.
But fellowship will also permeate all aspects of our lives–all our relationships–when we commit to loving others with the love Jesus freely and graciously offers each one of us.
Did you know Jesus has already chosen you, if you will but choose Him?
If having fellowship with Jesus sounds strange to you, today is a GREAT day to ask Him to be your Savior, too. Like so many Christians have already done, YOU can pray a simple prayer to ask Jesus to forgive you for your sins and come into your life.
I like what Franklin Graham has to say about choosing the God who already chose us. Yep, Jesus is the most wonderful person to ever walk the face of the earth. He’s powerful enough to die for sinners and then live to tell about it!
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Cathy
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Why Men Crave Sex? The Answer Will Surprise You
You read to the end of the blog. I think you deserve the answer.
I’m in a quandary, though. First, I hate it when people bait and switch with a headline and then don’t answer the question. But, secondly, I hate to give away a pretty important punchline in Chris’ book without all the research and wisdom he uses to back it up.
Here’s my solution. I’m gonna tell ya what I think is the most mind-blowing thing I learned in Sex and Marriage:
Men crave sex because they crave home.
That info changes everything about how we receive our hubby and how we raise our sons. Chris explains it alot better than that. So, promise me, you won’t cheat yourself out of listening to the Get Real to Heal podcast or buying his book.
Please, pleeeease do yourself a favor and get ALL there is to know on this subject! This is conversation-family-culture changing info! We’re in it together.
Thanks for reading to the end. Love ya! ❤️ Cathy
Cathy Krafve, host of Fireside Talk Radio and author of The Well: The Art of Drawing Out Authentic Conversations and Marriage Conversation: From Coexisting to Cherished. Your stories, ideas, and questions welcomed here!
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